Remedying Disruption - An Invitation to Harmony

As we continue to move through these uncertain times, experiences of disruption and disorganization are surfacing through the layers of our experience.

In relationships, this is showing up as either conflict, discord and for some the decision to disengage or end relationships that are no longer resonating. This can cause feelings of confusion, guilt, grief, and anger on both ends. The pressure cooker of Covid is causing many of us to wake up and choose what’s important to us.

At work, the merging of home and work life is also chasing us to figure out a new way of operating. Many are experiencing burnout and frustration along with a sense of inner conflict. Again, the question of what do I really want comes up? The old paradigm of work just isn’t working. But we are so used to it, that it’s hard to break free or disrupt our patterns.

Waves of anxiety are sweeping many as we try and recalibrate to find a new way of existing that honors our basic human needs of rest, connection, and expression.

It is very normal to feel anxious when we are changing deep-seated patterns. We are going against what we know and walking into uncharted territory to become creators of something new. Not only does our nervous system register the unknown as dangerous, but our belief systems are challenged. What we once believed made us worthy and valid humans may no longer be true. The 9-5 job, the hustle, the achievements, the money, the possessions, the very strict relationship regimes, and norms… may not be working for us anymore. And the internal voices that tell us anything else is wrong or bad, need to be met with deep compassion.

From a physical or somatic perspective, many are experiencing gut issues, from stomach aches to the need to purge and detox on a very physical level. With it comes a wave of exhaustion and depletion. Our bodies are asking for rest and renewal and we need to give it to them.

Others are experiencing fluttering in the heart and tension in the rib cage and diaphragm, a feeling of not being able to breathe with ease. It’s as if we are figuring out how to exist here. In these bodies, in this world, and within the current relationships and systems that we operate within. Left unmet, these sensations may evolve into feelings of fear or panic. At a very ancient and existential level, we are afraid to be alone and helpless in the world.

Overall it feels like we are fighting a huge change that is occurring in humanity at this time. It is cellular and it is collective.

Fight is the word to pay attention to here.

The fighting is what takes us into internal war and external resistance and disempowerment.

When we exist from a place of fight, we are looking to conquer, win and prevail, and the cost is someone or something else’s destruction. This is war - inside and out.

I believe at this time, we are being asked to move out of fight. As a humanity, we have moved into fight as a way of living for the last century or so. There’s no peace here. There’s no harmony. And it’s not sustainable.

In order to move through and beyond these times we need to invite harmony and response to threat, and sustainability as a way of life.

‘How can I harmonize with my current situation? How can I work within my current capacity?’

You can apply these self-inquiry questions to anything that presents for you, from relationships to physical illness or systems that tell you what is allowed and what isn’t.

This isn’t about lying down and taking it. This is about listening. Responding. Choosing. This is the foundation of cultivating flow.

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”

Alexander Graham Bell

These sentiments are also shared in the bible. Isaiah 43:18-19

This is an ancient lesson we are being asked to integrate now!

Respect those closed doors. Don’t bang your head against them. Accept their current status of closure. Step back. Expand your awareness, open to another path, window, or portal into what’s next. It’s neither time to force nor retreat. This is about finding a new way to exist where the intention of harmony functions as a baseline for all.

In my own personal practice, I have been inviting harmony through my body and also harmony through my family, my business, and in relation to the culture and country where I reside.

I’ve been noticing palpable shifts in my sense of well-being and peace. Each time I catch myself shifting into fight mode (which happens regularly), I catch it, I disconnect and I find my way back to a harmonic approach, which often requires a lot of letting go; mostly of my own sense of force and desire to forge a specific path to my goals.

There is power in peace. There is alchemy in harmony.

This is the medicine we need right now.